tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post4844947914403073486..comments2023-07-09T01:33:24.556-07:00Comments on Old-Fashioned Motherhood: My Views on Youth DatingRachel Keppnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17193834789450018423noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-81744059792336605232011-02-08T18:48:35.687-07:002011-02-08T18:48:35.687-07:00Thank you for sharing that, Fiberwhimstress. :) I ...Thank you for sharing that, Fiberwhimstress. :) I think there <i>is</i> an exception to the general rule (any rule, really), and that would be, "If the Spirit says otherwise, and you have discerned that it really is the Spirit, follow any promptings you are given". You circumstance is beautiful. I'm glad that young man listened to the Spirit. :)<br /><br />Felicity, at {<a href="https://simple-and-elegant.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Simple Elegance</a>}Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14701616610950602498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-71888418266146447882011-02-08T18:25:38.356-07:002011-02-08T18:25:38.356-07:00I love all that you had to say on this post but I ...I love all that you had to say on this post but I will add that since a young man decided to date outside his faith(LDS), it was through him that I joined the church. I do recall him saying that he only did because the spirit told him to. So I hope that there is a little room for such things like that.Cub Scout Roundtable Commissioner Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06121920339958073992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-77500597963022965912011-01-26T15:14:32.612-07:002011-01-26T15:14:32.612-07:00I too knew when I started dating my husband that w...I too knew when I started dating my husband that we would get married. And honestly it didn't scare me one bit.<br /><br />I'm guilty of courting at too young an age. My high school boyfriend and I were quite serious-too serious-and I always worry that I ruined his mission for him. I wish my parents had helped me a little better. Although, one of the reasons I was so serious with him was probably because my dad traveled so much and my mom was going to school and working mostly full time (she says part, but it was full) so I was lonely. Being there for your kid would probably help stave off early courtship. I felt I had no one else to turn to.<br /><br />I wouldn't change any of it though, it made me the woman I am today.Curlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06176883112936068271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-35940749629314098782011-01-24T16:29:09.902-07:002011-01-24T16:29:09.902-07:00What a wonderful post on the Strength for Youth pr...What a wonderful post on the Strength for Youth program. They did not have this when I was raising my last four children; and luckily they did very well with obeying the not dating until you are 16 rule. This booklet is priceless in today's world of raising children. My grandchildren will be blessed by this booklet.<br />Blessings to you for sharing this! LeAnnLeAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18107717294803352571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-66095208069213783902011-01-23T16:58:27.320-07:002011-01-23T16:58:27.320-07:00Thank you for this, Mama Rachel! I've never ha...Thank you for this, Mama Rachel! I've never had a boyfriend, and I've never kissed. I just think that a husband is more appealing than a string of boyfriends. But, I'm not of the marrying age yet, and I need to wait for my man (whoever he may be) to return from his mission. It really is tragic how dating has turned to just a fun get-together with cute guys and girls. It's not even about getting to know what you want your future partner to be like. Really, I think it's just an excuse to be with members of the opposite sex without parents, rather than building and strengthening virtuous relationships and uplifting one another. I used to enjoy the whole dating concept, but now that I'm getting closer to adulthood I don't find it so attractive. I want to court, not date. I want to find a wonderful, temple-worthy man and raise a family. I don't just want to have fun.<br /><br />Thanks for this, I really appreciate it. <i>For the Strength of Youth</i> really is inspired.<br /><br />I awarded you something. Check it out {here}! <br /><br />Thanks for following me! :)<br /><br />Felicity, at {<a href="https://simple-and-elegant.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Simple Elegance</a>}Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14701616610950602498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-61057471928834277652011-01-23T16:41:56.820-07:002011-01-23T16:41:56.820-07:00Thank you for this, Mama Rachel! I've never ha...Thank you for this, Mama Rachel! I've never had a boyfriend, and I've never kissed. I just think that a husband is more appealing than a string of boyfriends. But, I'm not of the marrying age yet, and I need to wait for my man (whoever he may be) to return from his mission. It really is tragic how dating has turned to just a fun get-together with cute guys and girls. It's not even about getting to know what you want your future partner to be like. Really, I think it's just an excuse to be with members of the opposite sex without parents, rather than building and strengthening virtuous relationships and uplifting one another. I used to enjoy the whole dating concept, but now that I'm getting closer to adulthood I don't find it so attractive. I want to court, not date. I want to find a wonderful, temple-worthy man and raise a family. I don't just want to have fun.<br /><br />Thanks for this, I really appreciate it. <i>For the Strength of Youth</i> really is inspired.<br /><br />I awarded you something. Check it out {here}! <br /><br />Thanks for following me! :)<br /><br />Felicity, at {<a href="https://simple-and-elegant.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Simple Elegance</a>}Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14701616610950602498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-62765714691769893222011-01-22T19:54:22.645-07:002011-01-22T19:54:22.645-07:00This is a great post. I was one of the very few te...This is a great post. I was one of the very few teenagers I knew who was not interested in dating. I knew I wasn't ready for marriage, therefore I didn't see a reason to date. I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 18 and a high school graduate. I only dated with the end goal of marriage and never dated "for sport". Unfortunately, I was too naive to know that most guys I met were not thinking the same way!(Now I know why my Dad almost had a heart attack when I first started dating!) I agree that people going from partner to partner has a lot to do with the high divorce rate, but I think the bigger reason for so many divorces is that most people live together before marriage, which is something I've never done and frankly can not understand.lolMandisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10746438918279697956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-55827337551413574342011-01-22T15:33:01.727-07:002011-01-22T15:33:01.727-07:00Thank you for putting this all together. I love t...Thank you for putting this all together. I love the guidance in for the Strength of Youth. We are so blessed to have guidance if we will just learn it, share it, and live it. I appreciate your experiences and thoughts.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06932108331857218053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-38188767987915285872011-01-22T14:40:58.168-07:002011-01-22T14:40:58.168-07:00WONDERFUL post! That is exactly how I've alway...WONDERFUL post! That is exactly how I've always thought of dating, and I suppose a lot of guys noticed that I wasn't the casual kissing type, but considered dating as one potential step towards marriage. Hence I have never been on many dates, and my boyfriends have been limited to two, before my fiance. With neither of them there was any physical contact to speak of, since I wanted to save that for my future husband, and with those two it didn't feel right. As soon as I realized I couldn't see myself married to them, I broke it of, since it was pointless to continue dating them. This means that I didn't have a lot of history when I started dating my fiance.<br /><br />Now, at 27, with four weeks to go before we get sealed in the temple, I'm so happy I chose to wait all those years for him!Sarah Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04095151411363232281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-12841341734235422332011-01-22T12:56:09.786-07:002011-01-22T12:56:09.786-07:00Great comments...Although I was super boy-crazy an...Great comments...Although I was super boy-crazy and enjoyed it, I definitely figured out fast that boys didn't see dating as "fun and innocent" as my mom told me it should be/could be. So it's hard to stay light and fun about dating when the other half is interesting in something else...and that something else, as you said, is anything BUT marriage!~Jocelyn Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342635172904848811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-50151417673581664112011-01-22T12:02:29.327-07:002011-01-22T12:02:29.327-07:00AMEN! Well said! My wife reads your blog and menti...AMEN! Well said! My wife reads your blog and mentioned this entry to me, so I got on and read it.<br /><br />While I would encourage young people to date a lot of people in order to find the best prospect, I also try to tell them to choose who they continue to date VERY carefully. <br /><br />I remember feeling a little worried, leaving on my mission having never had a girlfriend, but later I learned that there is no reason whatsoever to have a girlfriend or boyfriend before a person is ready to take on the prospect of marriage.<br /><br />I especially agree that physical affection ought to be withheld. There's way, way, WAY too much emphasis in the media on physical affection.<br /><br />Anyway, great article!Chas Hathawayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08333078321266436364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144795012504114230.post-60211310329281892792011-01-22T11:59:32.031-07:002011-01-22T11:59:32.031-07:00There is a great book called Unsteady by JeaNette ...There is a great book called Unsteady by JeaNette G. Smith that addresses dating from this perspective. The book quotes from the apostles and offers advice to parents about discussing dating with their youth. The clear message is that dating should be connected to marriage. The book also discusses ways that adults inadvertently encourage youth to commit emotionally at a young age. I highly recommend this book to all parents and youth.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16832866030508105066noreply@blogger.com