Saturday, November 9, 2013

"Casual Sex" Is NOT Liberating!

'When you “express yourself” you are conveying a message about your thoughts, feelings, and character. So shouldn’t we, rather than encouraging sexual expression for the sake of it, encourage MEANINGFUL and POSITIVE sexual expression? In the context of commitment and loyalty, sex expresses something. It expresses: “I love you. I give myself to you.” But what does casual sex express? “Use me and I’ll use you.”' ~Matt Walsh
In addition to the quote above, the following blog post makes so many valid points, and makes so much logical sense, I just HAD to share it here.

Abstinence Is Unrealistic and Old-Fashioned

The article is not for children, but I do think it should be read and discussed with the teens in our lives, especially since it was a response to a high school student's questions about staying morally pure.

Here are a few more quotes:
We’re told that we are sexually “liberated” if we throw ourselves at strangers and give ourselves over to people who couldn’t possibly care less about us. This is yet another lie. If modern attitudes about sex have “liberated” us, what, precisely, have we been freed from? Security? Commitment? Trust? What, we’ve broken the Shackles of Purity and Love and run gleefully into the Meadows of Pornography and Herpes? Because that’s all that our sexual liberation has wrought. A lot of confusion, a lot of porn, a lot of disease, a lot of emotionally desperate, psychologically battered, spiritually broken people wandering around, searching for another stranger who’s willing to go in for a few more rounds of sterile, shallow, pointless sex.

Even the term “casual sex” is insane. It’s an oxymoron. Denim is casual. Restaurants can be casual. Casual: without serious intention, careless or offhand, informal. A high-five is casual. Sex can only be viewed in this same vein once we have dehumanized ourselves enough to see human sexuality as something no more significant than a pair of jean shorts. 
Describing sex as “casual” is like describing the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel as a “nice little doodle.” That’s what I can’t stand — the people who diminish and cheapen sex are the ones who get to pass themselves off as “sexually enlightened.”
 Obviously, I don't see being "old-fashioned" as a bad thing. In fact, more and more, as time goes on, I believe it's the only way to stay morally clean. Following the truth that has been proven over and over again throughout all of history is the only way to be happy and successful.

I'm proud to say I'm "old-fashioned!" And I hope you enjoy reading and sharing this article with "old-fashioned morals" as much as I have.



  1. I will humbly admit to skimming this post as I believe in the sanctity of merriage and that sex is for becoming one as husband and wife and if God so chooses, for the comming about of children. It's not a "toy" for those who are interested in it.
    Now, I did want to thank you for putting the link in your blog about family in your side bar. Your blog here is in my list of blogs that updates when you post so I poped in to see what you had shared and that button actually got my attention. I have been to your blog here several times and even left a comment a time or two. *smile* I am not "Mormon" but I am a God fearing Jesus following Bible believeing Christian. Well, my husband and I both are and we are bringing up our two little blessings in that mannor. I have a question for you, do many Mormon moms homeschool? Just wondering. Better go, family needs momma. *smile* Have a wonderful weekend. Sincerely, Mommy of two growing blessings & so much more!

  2. Thanks for your comment! I am happy that you enjoy the blog. :-) The article link is really worth reading, if you have time, though the author is pretty sarcastic and witty-- I need to be in the "right" mood to read his stuff! LOL!

    There are many of us Mormons (LDS) who do homeschool-- I'm sure not as many as some other Christian sects, but there are lots of us! I write for an LDS homeschooling blog that might help you get a better idea of how many LDS homeschoolers there really are out there.

    It is not something that we are counseled to do by our Church leaders, but they are very supportive of homeschooling in general, and we are often reminded by them that the most important teaching our children receive is in our homes! Here's a quote from one of our Church leaders on the subject: "Teaching in the home is becoming increasingly important in today’s world, where the influence of the adversary is so widespread and he is attacking, attempting to erode and destroy the very foundation of our society, even the family. Parents must resolve that teaching in the home is a most sacred and important responsibility. While other institutions, such as church and school, can assist parents to “train up a child in the way he [or she] should go” (Proverbs 22:6), ultimately this responsibility rests with parents." {You can read or watch the entire talk here: }

    LDS church teachings are VERY focused on the family. We believe that our families can return to God's presence together as a family in the next life, and so you can see why we place so much emphasis on marriage and raising children in righteousness.

    It sounds like you and your husband have a great start on your little family, and want to bring them to Christ. That's so wonderful to hear! I pray that the Lord will continue to bless you in your worthy efforts. :-)

    And thanks again for your great comments!

    1. Thank you for making the time to share your understandings with me here. I also want to thank you for sharing the reference links with me. You encourage me, thank you. Have a wonderful day. Sincerely, Mommy of two growing blessings & so much more!

  3. I agree with you being old fashioned is good. I just do not understand how anyone can have casual sex. It is really quite sad; because there is not real love in this kind of sexual behavior.
    Blessings for your stand and this great post.

  4. I was affirmed by your emphasis of saving the God given gift of physical intimacy for the marriage relationship. Young adults are full of life: love, energy, expectations. This is good. But I've heard it said that fire is good too - in the fireplace.

    You make some very good points. We are not a Mormon family but our Christian home schooled children are all adults now, and I can speak from experience that - yes - purity is doable, abstinence is obtainable, and comfortably so.

    We liked to satisfy our teen's desire for society by inviting friends into the home hospitably, for classes or games. They also mixed in multi-generational church gatherings - were involved in ministering to others, rather than going out for one-on-one romantic-recreational dates. I can't tell you the amount of pots of chili or how many chicken pot pies I made for company (or gallons of ice-cream we served) but it was for a good "socializing" cause. Consequently, my daughters' thin suitors put on weight. (I'm smiling.)

    It is encouraging to know that a young person, Matt Walsh, is speaking out.

    I see your term "Old Fashioned" - to also mean the freedom of creating our own micro-culture in our families and having that become (and feel) normal.


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